Extroverts’ perception of introverts is based on some pervasive and faulty myths.
Myth #2: Introverts don’t participate; they are not good team players.
“Come brainstorm with us! Be part of the team! I know you have ideas to share! Come on. Really, you’d rather send a memo? Seriously?”
Truth: Participation, to the extrovert, means “group activity.” Introverts do not thrive when asked to participate in board meetings, brainstorming sessions, networking functions, large social events and loud parties. It’s not that they have nothing to contribute.
Far from it! Extroverts perceive non-participation as anti-team and laziness; an introvert prefers to work alone and then share what they have accomplished, rather than co-creating in a group.
They are dedicated to the team’s success, but not in the same way that extroverts are. One thing is for sure about introverts: they are NOT people-pleasers and you won’t find them saying yes when they mean no. And if they zone out in a group situation, it’s because they are trying to re-energize (or, the conversation is boring!).
Tim hates brainstorming. He sees these sessions as “ego fests” where everyone thinks their idea is better than everybody else’s, and the squeaky wheels are the only ones whose ideas are ever heard. He prefers to present his ideas directly to his boss, and rarely speaks up during meetings. His boss knows what Tim can bring to the table. She respects Tim’s expertise, and encourages him to participate more in meetings – and when he won’t, she feels frustrated because she feels the need to defend his lack of participation.
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If you like this (short) post, you will like my newest book, “Introverts in Business”, in which I am talking about extroverts’ perception of introverts that is based on some pervasive and faulty myths, like introverts can’t make quick, bold decisions or introverts don’t participate; they are not good team players, or introverts never show initiative. Learn more here: http://www.northamericansalestraining.com/book-introverts-in-business/
